Silent Grit, Loud Results

The most successful people I know and feel inspired by- surround themselves with a tribe of individuals who motivate, and encourage personal growth. However- real change and growth comes in those moments of soltitude when no one is watching or celebrating your wins. It’s easy to call it quits when no one is watching, but this is where it’s important to follow through. When you do, these instances are called silent grit moments, which build fulfillment, confidence, and discipline towards your goals.

Some examples:

If the only way you will get to the gym is by getting a gym partner- reframe your lens of thinking with a grit mentality. You have a gym partner for parallel accountability- but you still show up, even the days they can’t make the gym with you.

As great as it is to get a coach in an area of your life that you are trying to improve- if a coach is the only way you are motivated to show up for yourself, you need reframe your lens of thinking with a grit mentality. A coach will guide you and give you the tools to succeed, faster and more effectively, but real change comes from the willingness to make the changes they coach you on longterm, and on the days and hours you aren’t working with them.

If the only way you grow a faith journey with god and Jesus is by going to church every Sunday- you need reframe your lens of thinking with a grit mentality. The real relationship with Jesus and God- is the one in soltitude, prayer, and learning gods voice through scripture. Getting to know gods voice and heart is truly done in your own spiritual walk- the Sunday service is just a way to solidify and strengthen that bond with god and Jesus.

“I’ve told my clients for years- grit and grace is a hard tightrope to walk.

Too much grace without grit, and you find yourself making choices and building habits that don’t align with your long-term goals.

Too much grit without grace, and you spend a lifetime fighting perfectionism, black-and-white thinking, and patterns of low self-worth and self-esteem.

Your life needs to be filled with a good balance of grace and grit so you can show up for yourself, and experience positive transformation.

I am going to share a few tips for cultivating grit so that you can see LOUD results:

1. Inventory your daily habits, and determine what habits are distracting you from your goals and a spiritual walk to your healthiest and happiest self.

   • Find your biggest distractions. For most of us it is screen time through television, social media, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, or emotional eating. Boundaries surrounding these negative habits need to be enforced so that you stay aligned with your goals. Grace should be practiced when we fall victim to them on rare occasions, but if they are constantly distracting you from reaching your goals- you need to get a grit mentality and show up for the hard things that align with your goals- even when the positive habits are hard to practice and adopt, and the negative ones are ruling your life. Exhale the negative habits, and inhale/adopt the positive habits

2. Find your tribe.

   • Who you surround yourself with is key to reaching success with your goals, and living a healthy and happy life. If you surround yourself with individuals who enable the habits and behaviors that distract you from your goal self- you don’t reach your full potential with goal setting. If you surround yourself with people who hold you accountable to your goals and want to see you be better, you gain confidence and motivation to stay aligned with your goals. Although a lot of reaching your goals is staying aligned and moving in silence on your own, your tribe makes it easier and motivates you in the times you need more support.

3. Tune out criticism, and keep your focus on your calling.

   • Your life and calling inside your heart may not look the same as your family, friends, and coworkers. People may criticize and judge you for having different habits and choices. Let them. Practice grace and accept others who don’t live the same lifestyle as you, but don’t let others who criticize you tear you down for living a life different than theirs. The more you can say no to the things that don’t serve you, the more you can call in, say yes, and follow through on the things that do.

4. Do the hard things often.

   • Doing the hard things is key for growth and breaking old systems and patterns that don’t serve you. When you choose to do the hard things over and over again you start building confidence by showing up for yourself. You truly begin to learn what a grit mentality is. When you do the hard things it gets easier to say no to the things that don’t align, and you follow through on the things that do. Doing the hard things not only helps you foster a grit mentality it will continue to move your habits, beliefs, choices, and moral compass in the right direction towards your goals.

If this blog teaches you anything- I hope it teaches you to practices awareness around the tightrope you walk of grit and grace.

Remember:

Practicing too much grace without grit, and you find yourself making choices and building habits that don’t align with your long-term goals.

Practicing too much grit without grace, and you spend a lifetime fighting perfectionism, black-and-white thinking, and patterns of low self-worth and self-esteem.

The more you can strike a healthy balance of grit and follow through on the hard things, and continue to show up for yourself- the happier you will be. My hope is that after reading this blog you will find that healthy balance for yourself so that you can continue to build a healthy, happy, and intentional life.

Much love and happy habits,

Juliane 💕